IMPROVING SEX WITH MATE

Abstract: Single sex enhancement is suggested to bring to couples to “Cross Paths” One has sex with them and are minimally connected with the other. When they both want sexual intercourse, they can do so. Neither is pressured into sex.

Introduction:

The two just met. Both are nervous and liking the other. For this short piece, we will use 2 cisgendered or straight folks. Thus, we have a female and a male. The relationship develops into sex.

At first, it is so easy. They pair bond and continuously remain close to each other. Then those feelings begin to fade. This is usually the female who loses the loving feeling. What is going on? She may have lied to get married or she simply truly changes her mind.

Description and Discussion:

From her side, she does more work; the kids get more attention from mom. Whether, he or she stays at home or both work she loses her interest in sex. He sees this and gets porn or goes out on her. She begins to fake her feelings toward sex, but she can’t keep up.

Psycho biologically, her drive naturally goes down. Sociologically, a “good” girl does not like sex. Part of femininity is virture.The double standard kicks in and she becomes frustrated. They may try other strategies, but most encourage greater isolation. She tries avoidance and he feels that he should divorce because she lied.

She still likes sex, but a lot of it is not in the cards. So, the usual is divorce. Some have a mistress move in, or they trade partners with another couple across the city. They try counseling. She may be forced to have sex. Life is lousy. The kids know that marriage with kids appears to be a bad move. There appears to be so many divorces. 1/

Some of the material indicates strategies to improve the relationship. The emphasis is on communication and expression. 2/ Others indicate an emotional connection.3/

This author suggests that not only love and communication are important, sometimes sex enhancement technology may help. However the technology is secondary to the decision a couple makes. They both indicate to each other when they want a relationship. There is a metaphor here. Both are on slightly different paths. Each masturbates alone or with a vibrator. The other helps by watching their mate and encouraging them in the orgasm. FURTHER, THE FEMALE MAY FIND SEX EASIER, IF SHE PUT HER HAND UNDER THE SCROTOM. THUS, SHE LOOKS AT HIM WITH ENCOURAGEMENT. AFTER THE INTERCOURSE, SHE CAN GO TO THE BATHROOM AND THEN WASH HER HANDS AND GO ABOUT OTHER ACTIVITIES.

However, their two paths may cross or connect. Here is the time that the couple can love each other in a way they define as their own. The female may want something that differs from the male, but the number of times a year and related are hurtful to ones honesty and their communication with each other. “Path Crossing” means that they both are ready for a relationship. This time both are honest and can have sex any time, but have sex with their partner only periodically.

The female no longer feels quility for saying “no” to sex or has sex but it is against her desire.

Conclusion:

“Single Path” or “Cross Pathing” may become common terms. Each wants to feel a special relation with the other and can do so with honesty.

References:

1/ McNichols, K. (6/14/2025) What It Actually Means to Be in a Sexless Marriage Psychology Today.

2/Weis, R. (7/23/2021) 4 Ways Married Couples Can Keep Having Great Sex, Psychology Today.

3/ Thomas, L. (10/12/2017 How to Improve Your Sex Life Tonight, Psychology Tonight