SEXUAL UNION
SEXUAL UNION
Abstract: A talk is needed before marriage that deals with sex. If it is an abusive relationship, the relationship should be terminated.
Introduction:There is a legend of a little girl and boy are watching standard pornography. After it is over, the girl is crying and the little boy has an erection.
Description:
A Syracuse study of married 18 to 35 year of 80 % of married women don’t like sex./1
What is going on here?
The females fakes or likes sex at first, but an act of despair on the part of the male turns her off. He is getting and she is giving. Further, as time goes on her drive fades. So now what is she going to do? Fake it? Divorce? What?
Discussion:
In porn, the female is clean and hygienic. The male is soiled. However, it goes further than that. How come most of the time, she is doing most of the giving and he is not.
So, one way to save the marriage is to use a vibrator on the male. He wants sex often and she does not although she likes him. However, if the technology is accompanied by the other, it can encourage pleasure on the part of the masturbator. This also can be used for the female. There is proper technology.
There are abusive situation where this does not work. However, the witness becomes the enhancement for the person watching. The female may have to overcome some issues, but it is away for the couple to come together and enhance their boredom or fear of the other. There are many strategies to allow each partner to have sexual pleasure as their choice.
A small light or even some emanation from a television can help. It encourages a friendship. In a semi-lit room, the witness encourages the one who is masturbating, sounds of affection. Gone are the days of the fake or the total with drawl of the couple. THE FEMALE HOLDS THE SCROTUM UNTIL THE MALE EJACULATES. SHE THEN LEAVES, WASHES HER HANDS AND MOVES ON TO OTHER ACTIVITIES. PERHAPS, SHE HAS HIT THE GOLDEN MEDIUM AND MAY ESCAPE ANGER OF UNWANTED PARTICIPATION OR THE ANXIETY OF AVOIDING SEXUAL CONTACT.
They should also talk seriously about having children. Does alcohol help? All of these common sense strategy need to be discussed before or at the beginning of a marriage. The glow of sex first leaves the females.
Children become stressors until later in life. So why doesn’t this issue come forward? All this discussion can mean that sexual abuse and wife beating was once acceptable. The author witnessed a middle age mother down the street who continually had a puffy face and sun glasses. The neighbors as well as myself was very sorry for her, but there was little that she could do. Thus “Domestic Violence” is now a serious issue and it can happen to males, but it is usually females who overwhelmingly are beaten.2/
Conclusion:
Clarity comes before the intense interaction.
References Cited:
________, (8/13/2008) Study: Married women hate sex, Syracuse.com/
Snell, J. (12.13, 2025) 80% of Women Hate Sex, 56thst.com/
_______(2025) Domestic Abuse, Wikipedia.
Prof. Joel Snell
Emeritus
Kirkwood College
3105 Alleghany Dr. NE
Cedar Rapids, Iowa
52402-3315
