Snell, Joel C (9/27/2015) An emerging family in the 21’st Century Social Vibes.Net     (POSITION PAPER)

ABSTRACT

Over and above the traditional pair bond, the author sees the emergence of the poor black  family transmitting across demographics. However, these emerging families will have significant variations and social and financial advantages not visited up the low income black families.

INTRODUCTION

As females improved in their ability to find work over gender discriminations, they had to deal with the second shift of taking care of  progeny and mate. This applies to both working and at- home wives. The usual platform of legal separation and divorce as well as parternerships is sex, money, and offspring.

 Women for many reasons do not like sex. A Syracuse study supports this statement as 80%  of married women do not like it or would prefer infrequent copulation. They also find that males do not do their half of the work and/ or they cheat and beat. Thus, there is a separation and perhaps remarriage for one or both partners.

DISCUSSION

Females include the divorce, separated, single, widow, mother from polygamous, polymory, partnered, adoptive mother, biological and others. Males are or approximate something  similar to females in terms of family status.  Further, their issues include financial as each child cost in 2015 is  $125,000 each and this amount does not count post secondary or the child’s failure to launch after college.

Second, personal freedoms are considerably reduced as each new child enters the pair bond. Further, infrequent or celibate sex activities become more apparent. Again, the husband is no longer attractive or attentive. Additionally there are numerous hidden activities as the family grows and financially costs rise. In agrarian societies to early industrial systems, children worked to provide income for the family. Today for urban and suburban dwellers this is an issue of cost support. So the family offers extra work, little or no sex, and hidden stresses especially for the males in terms of sex and for females as a sense of loss of affection and additional support in work around and in the domicile.

As the male goes into the wider community, he finds that it is hard to find a female who can be a friend and would prefer not to have children as they cut back in mobility, social and geographic.

He floats spending time with others of same status or by himself. The loneliness offset the family responsibilities. Further he fears that his biological  children may come to truly dislike him. Sperm Dads who leave families are not highly regarded but secretly envied. Females that are not poor generally have more financial resources, social assistance, and  are financially secure. Thus, there is not poverty and there are males in the neighborhood that can be empowered as uncles to discipline the children when the mother carries a mobile device including the cell phone. In worst case, heavies who are big and intimidating can be contracted through an  agency . They are certified and can provide counseling and overwhelm daughter or son who has intimidated the mother.

Further, they may still qualify for some federal help and have their own income. They may also find a female partner with children and the two can afford living together. Straights generally are roughly over 95 or more percent in the parent population.

Thus, two straight women may not offer each other sex but they are able to provide affection and emotional support. Latest studies with Millennials  nearly one third see sex orientation as fluid. Thus situational sex may emerge. Regardless, families may form a bi-modal curve, the traditional family of pair-bond and children. The male may spontaneously want children and less sex, the wife is in a profession where child rearing is less arduous and like sex or appear to tolerate wifely duty, submissive sex, intimidation or related.

The author believes that two mothers with social and economic support may find this as a superior arrangement after their first divorce.

What about the children? It is the author’s belief that if the children are fatherless in the sense of one father they will not do as well as an intact family. However, dysfunctional families that last a life time can have tremendous negative impact on their children.

This new family does not mean the future is bright or bad. We have to experience the movement as we pass through the ages.

It would appear that the nuclear family in living distance of other blood related families called the extended  family is probably the best of all. However new jobs to support the family may be the major stimuli to break up the extended family as they are hundreds of miles away. The pair bond is weakened.

CONCLUSION

Another infrastructure of a family appears to emerge that bring two straight women together.  In some ways, the single parent engenders to stereotype that of the poor black families. However, the similarity stops there.

REFERENCES

See selected and general references to this issue. Gay families were deleted directly for brevity. The author supports new relations for Gays if they work.